FOUR STAGES OF A RELATIONSHIP
COOPERATIVE
o MUTUAL COMMITMENT TO MEET OTHER PERSONS NEEDS
o MORE EMPHASIS ON OTHER PERSON THAN SELF
o MUTUAL TRUST AND RESPECT
o MUTUAL USE OF GIFTS, SKILLS, AND CREATIVITY
o JOINT DEVELOPMENT OF SOLUTIONS TO PROBLEMS
o PRODUCTIVITY IN THE RELATIONSHIP
o PERSONAL COMMITMENT TO RELATIONSHIP
o CONTINUED STRENGTHENING OF THE RELATIONSHIP
RETALIATORY
o ATTEMPTS TO MAKE PARTNER CONFORM TO WHAT WE WANT
o AGGRESSIVE ACTION TOWARD PARTNER
o VIEW PARTNER AS OBSTACLE IN OUR WAY NOT PERSON WITH NEEDS
o STRUGGLE FOR DOMINATION
o CONTINUAL CONFLICT
o AN EVENTUAL WINNER-LOOSER PATTERN BEGINS
DOMINATION
o LOSER CONTROLLED BY WINNER
o LOSERS PERSONALITY IS SUFFOCATED
o MUTUAL LOSS OF RESPECT
o LOSERS CREATIVITY AND SKILLS NOT USED
o LOSER RESORTS TO MANIPULATION
o LOSER EVENTUALLY CONCLUDES THAT THE SITUATION IS HOPELESS
o LOSER QUITS TRYING TO GET THEIR NEEDS MET
ISOLATION
o OTHER PERSON IS MENTALLY BLOCKED OUT
o COMMUNICATION IS STOPPED
o MUTUAL MISTRUST
o NEEDS ARE NOT MET
o MUTUAL UNCONCERN
o PRODUCTIVITY DECREASED IN BOTH
o SITUATION SEEMS HOPELESS
o LOSER DEVELOPS A CLOSED SPIRIT
o RELATIONSHIP IS TERMINATED